It’s not that hard to date a woman in her 30’s

I am so tired of hearing men say “women in their 30’s are too hard to date – they are too demanding, they don’t believe what I say, they are too independent, they are too cynical, blah blah blah de fucking blah.”

 Look guys – it’s difficult for anyone to find someone they truly want to date, I get that.  If you want to date a woman who is in her 30s, and, let’s face it, you do, because we are more likely to have our shit together, own a home, have a savings account and can fuck you 10 ways from Sunday and have perfected the art of the 2 minute blowjob, it’s not that difficult.  So here are some tips, ranging from how to approach to how to seal the deal to making it a solid gold hit.

 If you want to approach a woman in a bar or some social setting, just approach her.  Save the pick up lines for making your four year old daughter giggle.  “Hi – I’m Scott and I would love to sit and chat with you for a few minutes and buy you a drink, if you don’t mind.”  Nice, cordial, polite.  “Hey Baby, you know what look good on you? Me.”  Yeaaaaa…….this is my vagina drying up to ensure you will never gain access.

 Should you make it to the point where you get her phone number – do you know what you do with that phone number? YOU CALL or TEXT HER.  SOON.   I don’t mean call her five days from now, I mean, perhaps the next morning or afternoon, send her a text such as “I’m really looking forward to when we can talk more.”  Or “I’m so glad we’ve met – I hope you have a good day…when would be a good time to call so we can chat some more?”  Let’s her know you are still interested and that it wasn’t the 10 beers you had last night.  If you wait to call her a week later and she asks “Joe who?” why are you surprised?  It took you seven days to find five minutes to call her – she lost interest in hearing from you about five days ago because if you can’t find time in your oh-so-hectic life to even call her to ask for a date, what’s a relationship with you going to be like?

 When it comes time for the date, if you live in different cities, YOU DRIVE TO HER CITY.  You do not meet half way, you don’t have her come to your city.  You drive to hers and you MEET at the bar or restaurant or coffee shop.  If a man asks me to come his way, I’m instantly annoyed.  I’m a woman – I want to know you’re willing to go the extra mile (literally as well as figuratively) for me.  Do not offer to pick her up – in this day and age, we all want to play it safe and we like knowing we can’t be held captive. Don’t get bent out of shape, in fact, suggest it (bonus points) and tell her “I know a first date can be uncomfortable, so let’s meet at your favorite restaurant.”  It lets her know you respect her boundaries (you aren’t out for a piece of ass) as well as her safety and comfort. 

 Are you amazed at how much we think? Don’t be. We are the superior sex LOL.  But it’s true – your implications, your intentions, your courteousness all translates through your actions and words.  So choose them carefully.

 I don’t care who you’re dating (notice, I’m assuming you’ve made it past the first date and she wants to see more of you) – DO NOT PUSH FOR SEX.  Make sure she knows you’re attracted to her – kiss her, hug her, caress her, whatever, but let her decide when it’s time for ass.  Don’t set a rule ie: 10 dates before you sleep together.  Don’t say that you think you guys should only have sex every 3^rd date so it doesn’t become all about sex.  You’re adults – do it ten times a day if that’s what makes you happy.  But if you’re interesting in the woman, truly interested, you will not invite yourself into her home, you will not move too fast. Give her a hug and maybe a kiss on the cheek after the first date.  Kiss her at the door after the next one.  The longer you prolong having sex, the more explosive it will be.  And she’ll like that you were interested in spending time with her without having the expectation of ass.  Really. 

 Once you are in a full fledged relationship, it’s not hard to maintain it.  Remember the considerate, mature, affectionate guy who showed up for those first few dates?  He needs to stick around.  Text her every morning to have a great day. Make sure she knows how important she is to you, how much enjoy having her in your life (without hitting stalker mode ie: 200 texts a day and pouting if she doesn’t respond within 2 minutes).  When you meet her family, do not consume more than 2 drinks, regardless of how much her brother drinks.  At least offer to help clear the table, do the dishes.  Show her family WHY she is so interested in you and has developed a relationship with you.

 Finally – fuck the ever loving hell out of her whenever she wants it. That’ll REALLY make her happy.  =)

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